Non-Traditional Bridal Party Options: How 3 Nashville Brides Selected a Mix of Maids and Men
Monday, March 4, 2013
Jenna of jHenderson Studios alerted me to a wedding trend that I hope contines, mixed gender bridal parties. Jenna has photographed several recent weddings where the bride and groom went against tradition and opted to select their bridal parties based on their special relationships versus the way it is typically done - bride has bridesmaids and men have groomsmen. The 3 couples below flipped this tradition on its head and invited their best buds, whether male or female.
You can confirgure your wedding just about any way that you want. I always tell brides that you don't have to have 4 groomsmen just because you have 4 bridesmaids. Mixed gender bridal parties are yet another way that today's bride is planning HER wedding HER way, not one from an etiquette book. This is one totally makes sense!
I asked Jenna to share photos and comments from her mixed gender weddings. I hope these gals give you some great ideas and remind you to do things your way.
The last two weddings in my family were pretty traditional, in that my female cousins asked our fellow female cousins to be in their wedding parties. While I love my family, I really wanted the people standing next to us on our wedding day to be the cream of the crop, our best buds, the people I talk to every week and not only at family get-togethers. It felt like the most organic and honest way to make these vows; I didn't want to begrudgingly pick a distant female friend solely to keep up appearances.
I'm so happy with our wedding party. I'm looking at my wedding pictures (by JHenderson Studios) on my desk at work right now. My favorite people in the world are smiling at me, and I'm grinning right back at them. It makes me feel so, so happy to see that authenticity. While I could have picked some more female friends to fit the bill and round out a gender-steady wedding party, it would have been forced. Our wedding day was natural and stress-free because of those folks who fell into place. It's almost as though we didn't pick our wedding parties. There was never any question; they've always played those roles.
Our groom's lady just so happened to be the one that introduced Bill and me. Even though it is not common to have a woman as a groomsman, the calculus was the same as for any other groomsman- she is one of his closest friends. So it just made sense for her to stand by his side. We found the perfect dress that matched the groomsmen's attire but also went well with my bridesmaids dresses. She actually took the same tie that the groomsmen wore and made a sash out of it to wear around her dress. It looked awesome! It all went together really well and was somewhat unique and that is exactly what we were going for.
What it boils down to is that these people meant something to our lives over the past few years. We wanted them to be a part of the party and didn't want to limit ourselves to people who are all the same sex. Those are the people we wanted behind us as we said our vows.